Source: Real Communication Secrets
Have you ever tried to change someone's behavior? I'm quite certain you have!
When you tried to get someone to do something different, how did it go? What did you say? What did you do? How did the person react?
I'm guessing it didn't go so well. Firstly, the person probably didn't change.
Secondly, things probably got worse as the person became angry, silent, or defensive towards you.
You not only tried to assert yourself and persuade the person to your way of thinking, but you probably pushed them further away from where you want them to be.
It's frustrating, isn't it? The most common communication barrier people use in this situation is giving advice.
They try to send a solution to help the person. They think they're doing the person a favor by giving advice, but all they're really doing is making the person feel frustrated for having received the solution.
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